The Girl Scout Oath Needs A Rewrite

I have dedicated my career to the empowerment of individuals, especially women so I have a bone to pick with the Girl Scouts of America. Having never been a Girl Scout I only came upon the Girl Scout Oath recently when the difference between the Girl Scout Oath and the Boy Scout Oath was brought to my attention.

I firmly believe that confidence building and providing environments where youth can become authentically strong, smart, and bold should start early on so I was very distressed to learn the differences in the two organizational oaths.

Here are the two oaths:

Girl Scout Oath

On my honor I will try to serve God and my country,

To help other people at all times, and to live by the Girl Scout Law.

Boy Scout Oath

On my honor I will do my best

To do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law;

To help other people at all times;

To keep myself physically strong, mentally awake, and morally straight.

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What irks me the most is how the Girl Scouts take an oath to try and serve while the Boy Scouts swear that they will do their best to help others.  Besides the obvious brevity in the Girl Scout Oath, I take umbrage with the fact that we are not empowering the girls of today to become the “doers” of tomorrow. There is no shame in trying but the verbiage does not exude confidence and strength in my humble opinion.

In all fairness, my research unearthed that Girl Scouts do some amazing things and are committed to fostering confidence, volunteerism, diversity, societal issues, and scholarship but the oath was coined in 1912 so ladies, please consider a revision!

The messaging we send to our children shapes their behavior as adults and I believe that Girl Scouts deserve to do their best just as Boy Scouts. It all boils down to gender messaging and eventually filters into the workplace when these girls reach adulthood.

If we can provide them with a non gender based opportunity to discover their strengths, do good work, and pay-it-forward to help others then we will move forward in breaking down the gender barriers that are still alive in the professional workplace today.

So the next time you buy Girl Scout cookies, ask your young scout what she is doing and applaud her for her good work.

Professional Poise and a Dose of Diva

Diva tips to ramp up your professional poise!

The Professional Female Shift

Women globally represent 70% of the buying decisions around the world, according to Indra Nooyi, the CEO of PepsiCo. There is a dramatic shift happening among women in the world which is impacting what happens everywhere from large corporate organizations to local non-profits. Since the recession, we see the importance of humanity being incorporated into advertizing, business, and the executive role.

Nooyi believes that leaders must balance their IQ with their EQ – or emotional intelligence to be effective. The EQ factor empowers women with an advantage to relate directly to their colleagues and customers because they can “…bring their whole selves to work,” according to Nooyi. This combination of empathy, active listening, strength, resilience, and ambition will serve women leaders well.

Sadly, only 12 women hold CEO positions at Fortune 500 companies at this time but the tide is turning and women stand poised to assume more leadership roles. Nooyi believes that women leaders have an advantage over their male counterparts because they can add humanity to a position and nurture without losing effectiveness.

At a recent conference, Nooyi shared her 5 C’s of Effective Leadership which we can all learn from.

Competency – stand out from the pack and be a lifelong learner. Remain ahead and stay abreast in your field.

Courage and Confidence – speak out. Establish your knowledge base and be confident as a leader.

Communication – over-invest in written and oral communication.  Leaders constantly need to motivate their troops.

Consistency – remaining steady, reliable, and determined allows for credibility and a baseline to measure your success and failures.

Compass – integrity is critical in leadership.

Marcy Neiditz, Ceramic Artist

A self-identified craft person, Marcy knitted her first creation, a shawl for her Barbie doll, at age four. Inspired by her grandmother and mother who also share the artistic gene, Marcy grew up sewing and creating handicrafts with anything she could get her hands on. Later she inherited her grandmother’s craft box, a veritable treasure trove of supplies which Marcy still has today.

At 19, Marcy left her native Ohio and moved to Los Angeles to discover the world and landed a job at an upscale home improvement center in Beverly Hills. This career move satisfied her need for hands-on work and soon she became a Buyer for the store and was fully immersed in all aspects of building and home renovation. But it was a flier posted in the store that launched Marcy’s artistic career and turned her hobby into an eventual livelihood. [Read more...]

Danielle Bobish, Curtain Up Events

A Broadway actress, Danielle was tired of being a struggling artist and knew she wanted more out of life and her career. But what – and how? Dissecting her career on the stage helped Danielle quickly realize that her professional theater background was the perfect training for planning large events. “With any big event like a wedding, you’ll find the same key elements: costumes, lighting, set decoration, production and timing, and lots of details to coordinate. I thought – why not bring that same excitement and theatrical sensibility to non-Broadway events?” She is now the Owner and Creative Director of Curtain Up Events (CUE) and an excellent example of a woman who combined her passions, skills, and experiences and used them to transition into a new career. [Read more...]

Make Someone’s Day

Learn how making someone’s day can infuse positive energy into your life!

Tap Your Inner Meryl Streep

Whether you have the performance gene or not, there are times in your professional life when you have to command an academy award winning performance to offset your emotions – especially fear. You remember the tag line of the Dry Idea deodorant commercial: Never Let Them See You Sweat – the same holds true in many professional situations.

Fear is natural and it can be very difficult to remain calm under pressure but you need to learn how to act confidently even if your heart is racing a mile a minute on the inside. When I am coaching my students and clients in mock interviews, I encourage them to have their game face on and approach the interview with confidence and their authentic personality, even if they are scared to death on the inside.

Imagine that person in your professional world who stands tall with humble confidence and exudes composure at all times. She seems to have it all together and you wish you could behave like her under pressure. You can and should emulate that confident person and practice holding it together when your nerves get the best of you. The truth is she may be just as scared as you are but she has developed a technique to lead with a confident persona and it works.

You set your audience at ease when you exude a confident and friendly persona as well. It’s torture watching someone who is terrified present or interview and no matter how well prepared they are, the focus is on their emotional distress and not their brilliant content.

Whether you are in a job interview, a board room presentation, or a public speaking engagement, tap your inner Meryl Streep and bring on a command performance. Work with a coach doing role play scenarios or practice with a trusted advisor so you can perfect your technique.

You can smell fear a mile away but a simple smile can be the best technique to let others know you are confident. By the way, in a recent interview, Meryl Streep confessed to severe stage fright before live performances but you would never know it!

Present Ideas to Your Boss with Confidence

Pitching a new idea to your boss does not have to be daunting or intimidating. Some practical tips from eHow magazine will help you on your way and give you the confidence and courage to share your ideas with conviction.

  • Gather information that supports your idea. Find statistics that show the potential success of your proposal with relevant examples.
  • Write your idea out on paper before you pitch your boss. What seems great in your head can be refined once you see it in writing. It’s always a good idea to present your boss with a written proposal (be sure to include your name) so he/she can process it after you have left the meeting.
  • Prepare best case scenarios of your idea in action and be ready for what-if questions. Help your boss envision the positive things that may happen as a result of your idea. Illustrate potential successes.
  • Approach your boss at the appropriate time for your pitch – ideally during a down time or a scheduled meeting on a slower day. Never pitch at the end of the day or on the fly, walking to another meeting. With a scheduled appointment you have a captive audience and the boss’s full attention.
  • Be respectful, especially if your boss is not immediately thrilled with your idea. Give him/her time to process it and be open to tweaking your idea to accommodate her suggestions. Always show your gratitude for the opportunity to make a proposal and plan to circle back for feedback after your boss has had a chance to digest the proposal.

Be sure to maintain good eye contact when you present your ideas – this shows confidence and strength and sets the tone for the encounter. Don’t be afraid to propose your suggestions. Even if all your ideas are not embraced, it shows initiative, creativity and it pays to take a risk to get your ideas heard.

Fake It Till You Make It!

Carol Jurgensen Sheets is a mental health therapist who also works as an executive and life coach. In a recent article she shared a wonderful concept that may shift the mindset of career changers and job seekers who are stuck in a rut trying to move forward towards a more satisfying career opportunity.

I meet many individuals who just don’t believe they have the power to change their career lot. Often they feel victimized and lack the self confidence to take a risk or seriously consider what they want out of a new career.

Sheets advocates for a technique called “fake it till you make it” – a self esteem builder that presupposes that you have the ability to take control of the situation, convey your needs, and make a decision. This paradigm shift helps to bypass self doubt and ignores the lack of confidence that paralyzes so many people.

The concept is simple – you make a decision and implement it with conviction, regardless of whether you think you are doing the right thing.  Sheets believes the technique works wonders if you “work it” and follow the implementation with conviction honestly.

She believes we all possess the knowledge to change any situation. The “fake it till you make it” exercise can help prove that you have the capabilities and all you need to do is practice until you prove it to yourself. Sheets also suggests these tactics to off-set the feelings of self doubt.

  • Find supportive people who affirm your ideas.
  • Use positive self talk to derail the negative tapes that play in your head.
  • Find groups that support and encourage you to trust yourself.
  • Practice the “fake it till you make it” technique until you convince yourself that you do indeed know what you are doing.

I agree with Sheets that we have the knowledge to change any situation including ultimate career satisfaction. But it takes a conscious effort to alter a situation to make it more palatable or work on a problem to alleviate issues. By faking it until the change becomes real, we give ourselves permission to solve these issues with the inherent wisdom we already possess.

Take some baby steps with this new technique and give yourself a safe opportunity to seek out change. You may start owning your decision making ability and re-discover your self confidence as you finally admit that you have had the ability to change all along.

Let Your Strengths Blossom

One of my favorite new resources is Ivy Sea www.ivysea.com Founder, Jamie S. Walters is a visionary author and culture shift leader helping women to reclaim their feminine Mojo and express is to the world. Jamie takes you beyond business as usual and offers individuals and organizations help in transforming unhelpful perceptions and patterns of inner and outer communication, leading to manifested vision, awakened creativity, smoother relationships, and lasting change.

I recently read an article by Jamie where she discussed how to unearth and nurture an employee’s strengths. Often the job performance reviews focus on weakness without highlighting strengths. She notes how a spotlight on weakness may result in a self fulfilling prophecy, where you build a poor image of an employee and she performs “down to her potential” which breeds mediocrity from someone with star potential.

Jamie and I are kindred spirits on the strengths quest mission. I am committed to helping individuals understand that they are not broken and if they focus on their strengths instead of their weaknesses they will thrive in careers that speak to their passions and provide true satisfaction.

Here are some action steps Jamie details that apply to both the boss and the employee. If you are an enlightened boss you will use these strategies to uncover the strengths of your team members. If you are a frustrated employee, you can deftly suggest these tactics to your boss.

Make time for positive recognition. Take the time to express genuine positive feedback on jobs well done. Be specific and share examples and watch your colleagues walk taller and embrace their inner confidence. According to Jamie, the benefit is two-fold: the employee knows what behaviors are most valued, and you help shift your thinking from “can’t do” to “there is potential here.”

Identify ways to apply existing strengths in new ways. What qualities has your staff member demonstrated and how can you utilize these to fulfill needs in your organization? Don’t be limited by the job title. Your receptionist may be an ideal project manager, so throw traditional responsibility norms out the window, according to Jamie.

Ask your employee what she likes to do. Imagine that – someone asking what you like to do! To avoid the all too common phenomenon of the Peter Principle where every employee rises to his level of incompetence, tap into what your staff member really likes to do. Find out what she believes is her most valuable contribution to the organization and unleash her to do what she believes she does best.

Turn a weakness on its head. Jamie suggests that instead of chastising an employee for her weakness, look to the exact opposite of that task to unearth a possible strength. It’s certainly worth discussing with your colleague and chances are if she is not a good closer, it may be because she is a fine idea generator.

Test-drive a new role. You may have hired an employee for a specific role but in time you realize that she would be utilizing more of her strengths in a difference function for the organization. Consider what Jamie calls a mini internship program, where employees shadow co-workers to learn more about the roles and needs of the company. This test drive could spark new ideas for the boss and the employee and a role-shift could be the best and most expedient way to use existing talent in a new way to meet company goals and develop satisfied employees.

Cheers to Jamie for illustrating very specific ways to uncover our strengths at work!